My husband has joined them and they are fighting against me

Hello Dr. Mama Zimbi, my name is Lydia. I am a nurse of 25 years old and married to my boyfriend of four years five months ago. He is also a nurse but we all stationed at different towns in the volta region. Mama, the problem is that my husband of only five months is asking me to allow him to marry a second wife since the lady’s family members are forcing him to come and marry her. The issue is that two months to our wedding, I discovered that he has fathered a year old son with another woman. so I decided to leave him but some pastors and elderly people came in to solve the problem and we got married.  Am six weeks pregnant now working  at my station but any I visit my husband, I meet the lady with the son staying in our matrimonial home with him. The lady’s mother calls me every time asking me to stop thinking high of myself and allow my husband to marry her daughter because she had a baby first for him. Mama Zimbi, please advise me on what to do, because my husband has joined them and they are fighting against me. Am so worried.

I don’t know weather I should accept the new guy

Hello Dr. Mama Zimbi, please am Mary 21 years from Accra. I have being in a relationship with my SHS boyfriend who is also 22 years and have we have dated for 4 years of which both parents are aware. Mama my problem now is, I met this Christian brother who is 32 years and says he wants to marry me now so I should take him to my parent for the arrangement. Mama I love my SHS boyfriend so I asked him when we will get married and he told me 6 years time. I am confused now mama bcos anything can happen in that 6 years he is talking about. please kindly help me out cos I don’t know weather I should accept the new guy who is ready to marry me or continue with my SHS boyfriend.

The guy’s mother is backing her son

Hello Dr. Mama Zimbi, am Anita, a 22 yr old girl and a nurse by profession. He is Melvin and he is 31yrs. Way back in shs when i was just 16yrs, i had an affair wit this guy and got pregnant. My auntie confronted him and he accepted that he is responsible. few mnths later he won an American lottery n went to the states. he never called or sent money for the child’s upkeep. its ma auntie n his mother who hav been takin care of my child till date. He came bac a month ago and he is now insisting on takin custody of the child. He is now married and seriously, i cant allow another woman to take care of my child. The little boy doesnt even like him. Am so confused because the guy’s mother is backin her son that the guy is the one who has been sending her money to cater for the child and should the case be sent to court she will testify against me. I am so afraid cos i dnt want to lose my child. Am planning on relocating to another place with my child. Am i makin the right decision?

He had sex with him the same day

Hello Dr. Mama Zimbi, my name is Monica. I need ur help am a lady of 26yrs old. there is dis guy ma Frnd has been collecting his money for months but she never love him. my Frnd is staying together wit her boy Frnd in de sam room but always collect dis guys money. one day de guy came to look for my Frnd at  de work place so the guy saw me wit my Frnd. my never give her fon number to dis guy  and also told him she is staying wit her uncle. she always use people fon to  cal dis guy so wen de guy came my frnd gave ma number to de guy dat wen he need her he should cal my number. the guy has called me several times asking for my Frnd mama I was sad wen de guy  complains abt ma Frnd.

So I told de guy the truth. he was so happi to de truth mama dis guy proposed to me hmmm I accepted and slept with him onece never knew he was going to Germany dat same day he had sex wit me. I was de one dat escort him at de airport I told he won’t cal me wen he gets there but as soon as he get there he called me and give me his number… abt one month he sent me 100 euros now he sent me moni every month. I never knew he has been in Germany so years now he is asking ma hand in marriage mama I love him a lot .he said he can’t stay there without me mama my problem is ma Frnd how will I tel her cos we work in de same place. pls I need ur help

My former boyfriend wants to stay with me for a while

Hello Dr. Mama Zimbi, my name is Dora. pls am a gal of 27 and he is 33 we had two kids. After the birth of de second child dis guy went to my parents nd told dem dat he is not ready to marry me so if I get someone who want to marry me I should go ahead and marry him. Mama I was not working by dat time and tins was not easy for me. After telling me he is not ready he never take responsibility as a father. I had to go to Adum to sell ice water before the kids can eat. Mama by Gods grace I had a chance to attend a private nursing training so I now work as a nurse in one of de private Hospital in kumasi. his guy travel abt four years ago nd never care weather he had kids or not. I use my salary I gt to take care of the kids. abt a week I had a cal from him begging me to allow him stay in my single room cos he is coming to GH and he won’t get a place to stay. mama is dat how a man should tel a Lady after putting her in pain. I haven’t told him anything cos  am so angry   dat any word dat comes from my mouth will be an insult which I don’t want dat. and besides mama I don’t feel any tin for him.pls advice me wat to tel this guy.